Connect with your partner.

Inspiration: [1], [2]

How It Works

Grab a partner.

Ask these questions of each other.

Become closer (hopefully!)

This is all fun and games. We are not scientists!

The Small Details

Question Set #1 (Go left/right for other sets)

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How do you like your eggs? Scrambled? Poached?

How do you feel about PDA?

What is your favorite romantic gesture? (Flowers, surprise gifts, notes, thoughtful texts)

What is your horoscope sign?

What is your favorite type of jewelery?

What item of clothing that you own do you like the most?

What are some of your all time favorite books? Why did you enjoy them?

Tea or coffee? How do you take either (sugar, milk, cream)?

Would you rather play board games at home with friends, or spend a night on the town, also with friends?

Big spoon or little spoon? Why?


Question Set #2

(You don't have to do the question sets in order, you can skip around)

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Ask your partner to tell you what really small thing you have done recently that he/she really liked.

Ask your partner to tell you one small habit you have that bugs him/her more than they'd like to admit.

Ask your partner to tell you one thing you did in the past that he/she loved and that you should do more often.

Tell your partner something you've been trying to do for them, but are struggling to do. Ask for their help.

Tell your partner the most meaningful compliment they've ever given you.

Tell your partner something they can do anytime your upset to help you feel better.

What is your favorite memory of your partner?

What's the most enjoyable date you've had with your partner?

What are three positive ways your partner has affected your life?

Work with your partner to design a small habit you can both put in place to maximize your personal happiness.

Example: talking before bed instead of phone time; movie night once a week; alternate doing dishes

Would You Rather

Question Set #3

Source: Mostly from Reddit.

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Would you rather be able to lift 100lbs (45.4kg) telekinetically or 10,000lbs (4535.9kg) physically?

Would you rather never be able to express "thank you" or "sorry"?

Would you rather have $1M right now or the power to create a single $20 bill with a 1 hour cooldown?

Would you rather be able to rip through anything like paper except paper, or see through anything like glass except glass?

Would you rather die or have 10 random people die?

Would you rather be able to reverse one decision you make every day, or be able to stop time for 10 seconds every day?

Would you rather go back in time to start your life over from a point of your choice (knowing what you know now) or win $100 million dollars and live the life you have now?

Would you rather be able to run at 100 mph or fly at 10 mph?

Would you rather be able to fall asleep instantly every night or be able to wake up everyday feeling fully refreshed with no grogginess?

Would you rather become a sentient strawberry with the mind you have now (no physical ability for mobility or communication) or just become a regular strawberry with strawberry thoughts?

Personal Improvement

Question Set #4

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Tell your partner about three personal flaws that you would most like to eliminate.

What was your biggest learning moment over the past 12 months?

What new habits would you like to cultivate? Ask your partner for help supporting these habits.

What personal goals do you have over the next 3 years? Ask your partner for help taking one tiny action towards one goal.

Would you hire yourself? Why/why not?

What are you concerned that you will regret on your deathbed?

What things or people do you allow to have a negative influence on you?

Which of your friends do you want to become more like?

What makes you the most productive? What stops you from being productive?


Question Set #5

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Do you get easily embarrassed? If so, what's one of your most embarrassing moments? If not, what would embarrass you?

What's the most absurd thing you've ever witnessed or been a part of?

What's your favorite funny video?

What's the funniest joke you know?

What kind of sense of humor do you have: stupid, sarcastic, self-deprecating, witty, slapstick, laugh-at-life?

Who's the funniest person you know? Why?


Question Set #6

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What's your earliest memory?

What would you say was the most positive thing about your childhood?

What was the most negative aspect of your childhood?

What is a value or lesson you learned in your childhood that's still important to you?

What was the neighborhood(s) you grew up in like?

Who was your best friend growing up and what were they like?

What was your favorite game (board game, sports, imaginary) to play as a kid?

What was your favorite place as a kid?

If you're planning on having kids, what's one aspect of your childhood you want to make sure your kids have too? If you're not, what's one thing you think all kids should have?

Who were the 'main characters' of your childhood? Take some time to describe each of them, and the impact they had on you.


Question Set #7

Source for some:

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Is it more important to be liked or to be respected?

Do you believe in fate?

Are we more shaped by nature or by nurture?

What is the meaning of happiness?

Do you believe in soulmates?

Do you think you're really living, or just being alive? Why or why not?

What are your thoughts on illegal drugs? Would you ever use any?

What do you think happens after we die?

What defines you?

You've both become the ultimate power couple, holding all the resources and power you could ever desire. Come up with a plan for what you'll do together to improve the world.

Before Meeting the Family

Question Set #8

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What is your family like?

Describe each family member

Who are you most like and why?

What was it like living at home? Tell me a story.

Do you have any siblings? What are they like?

Do you wish you had more siblings? Why or why not?

Is there anything you want to give me a heads up about before meeting the family?

What are some quirks in your family?

What does your family value?

Any tips on how to make a good impression?

Big Future

Question Set #9

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Describe your perfect life in detail.

Do you want to get married? Why? If so, how and when?

Do you want kids? Why or why not?

If you want kids, how many? How do you want to raise them? Why?

How do you feel about adoption?

Do you want pets?

Where do you want to be in your career in 10 years? In 30?

If you become wealthy, what would you spend your money on?

Say 3 positive ways you think your partner will contribute to your dreams.

Where do you want to live? Describe the location and the living environment.

What are the top 3 places on your dream travel list?

What are five things on your life bucket list?


Question Set #10

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What was the first thing you noticed about your partner?

Name 3 things you find attractive about your partner.

What actions make you feel the most loved?

What is one cheesy gesture (the kind you see in the movies) that you secretly really like?

Name a time your partner made you feel really special.

What was the best kiss you two have had?

Complete the sentence: “Falling in love is like ______________.”

What is one thing that you have never told your partner that you secretly like about them?

What is the most romantic thing someone could do for you?

Relationship Beliefs

Question Set #11

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What is your opinion about same gender relationships?

Tell me something about your first kiss.

What do you think about unfaithfulness in a relationship?

If you had a previous relationship, why did your last relationship break up?

Do you believe long distance relationships can work?

What do you like most about being in a relationship?

What do you like most about being single?

Do you believe people should live together before getting married?

Do you believe in soul mates?

Do you believe in love at first sight?

Vulnerability: Beginner

Question Set #12

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What's your biggest irrational fear?

What is a goal/dream that you never really talk about or share?

What's something you believe deeply in that you think most people would disagree with?

What do you do when you're sad to make you feel better?

What personality trait are you the most proud of?

What kind of social situation would cause you the most anxiety?

If you could change anything about yourself, what would it be?

Ask your partner to share something about you they are incredibly impressed with.

Ask your partner to share a piece of constructive feedback with you on how you might improve yourself.

Vulnerability: Master

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Who is the person that has hurt you the most? Why?

What is something that you don't like about yourself that you don't think will ever change?

Name one reason you are jealous of your partner.

What are you scared of failing at?

Describe any 'emotional baggage' you think you might have.

Tell your partner one thing they do that makes you feel loved and appreciated.

Ask your partner how you can make them feel more loved and appreciated. Try to keep them actionable things!

Ask your partner if there's anything you did in the past week that hurt them.

What's your deepest insecurity about your body?

Ask your partner to share their three favorite things about your body.

First Date

Question Set #14

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What's your favorite type of food?

What's your favorite color?

What 3 words do you think your best friend would use to describe you?

What 3 words do you think your parent or parent-like figures would use to describe you?

What 3 words would you use to describe yourself?

What's do you think is the most important thing in making a good first impression?

What's the most transformative life event you've had? What about it made it so impactful?

What were you like as a five year old?

What do you think is the most common incorrect snap judgment people make about you?

(not nice when actually really nice, slacker when actually hard worker, carefree when actually a worry wart etc)

Tell your partner one quality about them that you like already.


Question Set #16

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Who in your life knows the most secrets about you?

What's something about yourself you would never want your parents to find out?

Do you think you are a secretive person? Why or why not?

Do you or did you have any secret dreams you haven't shared with anyone?

What's the thing you like least about your body?

What's the most egotistical thought you've had about yourself?

Have you ever been burned after telling someone something that was supposed to be kept secret?